Gary to his wife Therese:

"Honey, I think you understand that I need some kind of release fairly often, but I don't think you understand that it goes much deeper than that.  My drives and hormones don't have a brain and therefore can't think for themselves.  They simply cause me to realize I have a need for intimacy.  When I seek you out to make love, I am not just looking for a release of some pent-up sexual frustrations.  I have a deep desire to connect with you.
When you consistently ignore my advances and put me off, I get frustrated.  I miss you."

~Every Heart Restored